Thursday, March 8, 2012

Sex Education


Can an intimate relationship with significant educational disparity succeed?

Yes! Of course is my immediate answer.

However, when I give it a little more thought, I tend to lean toward "No" because any relationship between with significant disparity is unbalanced and therefore, can not be successful.

To clarify, I'm talking about two people in the same or approximate age group who have disparate educational training; that is the stuff one learns in a scholastic institution. For example, could someone with a PhD in Physics have a successful intimate, loving relationship with someone who has a high school diploma?

Let me state clearly, I'm not saying that book knowledge, scholastic training necessarily means a better level of intelligence. However, it does usually indicate an advanced level of knowledge by virtue of quantity (the number of years and books one has studied). Of course there's something to be said for higher learning gained through experience and/or self-study.

Suffice to say all relationships have disparity, because no two people are exactly the same, have the exact same experiences or education (even if they attend the same class). Still there's no denying, the greater the disparity in a relationship, the greater the possibility for imbalance, problematic issues and obstacles that affect the success of the relationships. Yet, provided the two people involved are consenting adults - who are at least comparatively mature, it is possible they can succeed in a relationship that has great disparity. (For the record, my gut says an 18-year old has not yet reached a level of maturity to have a "healthy" and/or "balanced" relationship with a 30-year old; but that's just my spiritual barometer).

As I see it, a more thoughtful answer would be to consider:  Is it possible or even realistic for two people to date, fall in love, enjoy each others' company and create a respectful, loving and healthy intimate relationship regardless of and/or in spite of significant disparity in education?

"Yes" and "No"...

No, because it's impossible to have a successful intimate loving relationship if the two people involved are not respectful, considerate and willing to work at creating and maintaining a healthy and balanced relationship in spite of disparity.

Yes! It certainly is possible to have a successful intimate loving relationship if the two people involved are respectful, considerate and willing to work at creating and maintaining a healthy and balanced relationship in spite of disparity.

As always, its about balance!